356dayMom Blog

I have always wanted to write. I like to journal. I like to talk to people about pretty much anything (except I was raised not to discuss politics or religion in groups, so those topics will be off the table). I have challenged myself to write every day for a year. Click here for my list to date.

Day 5 – Happy Birthday

4 (2)Today is my oldest son’s 19th birthday. And I’m in shock. How can that be possible? My memories of giving birth to him are as clear as if it was yesterday. Every single (agonizing, joyful, incredible) moment.

This past summer we travelled to Germany as a family. My youngest was playing rugby, my husband was coaching and so Morgan and I spent six days in Heidelberg together alone. I will treasure that time forever. We hiked, we rode bikes (and will re-live my “near death” experience for years to come), we visited castles and I sat in in a pub for the first time with my son.

It was really a gift to have this time with him. When we are in the thick of parenting, the light at the end of the tunnel seems so far away. And we have been very 2 (2)blessed to have two boys who have caused us very little trouble.

But still it has been busy and crazy and suddenly we are in a different kind of relationship. I have another adult in the house. I feel so lucky that he chose to go to university in our hometown as I get to keep him for a bit longer.

I have loved each and every stage my kids have gone through, but this parenting an adult is amazing. So time to put away my helicopter (although I don’t think I was a big helicopter parent, honest… although they would probably say differently), and enjoy sharing adulthood with my son.

Can I still tell him what to wear?? Curfew??

Happy Birthday Morgan xo

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Day 4 – How the perfect playlist saved me

Music saved meIn July 2012 I was in a bad car accident. I have been through a number of interesting curve balls in life, but for some reason this accident got me deep in my core. It was like my mind said enough is enough and my body decided to follow suit. I couldn’t get in a car for weeks and two years later I’m only now feeling more comfortable in a car. But it took me a lot to get back to this stage.

Finally the thing that saved me was my love for music. I made a “perfect playlist” on my phone and would sync it to my car when I drove so it would distract me from bad thoughts. How can you have bad thoughts when you are belting out the lyrics to your favourite song?

Robert Plant stated “The whole idea of music, from the beginning of time, was for people to be happy.

There are numerous studies that show the benefits of music, including lowering blood pressure and anxiety. Sure helped for me.

Your challenge today is to make up a playlist that includes at least 20 of your favourite all-time songs. Then you will be ready next time you are faced with something that may need a little intervention.

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Day 3 – It is truly a dog’s life

tazo puppyOur beloved family dog is 11.5 years old. The day we brought him home I cried. Not in happiness! I cried because I was thinking what had I done. My kids had just started sleeping through the night (my kids were slow to get that concept). And now here I was on the floor sleeping beside the crate of a crying dog. And all I could think was my kids will be graduated by the time I was without the commitment of a dog.

So now here we are over 11 years in and I’m terrified of losing him. He is the centre of our household. He gets more cuddles and attention than anyone else. I know I will be a mess the day we lose him. And I noticed as we hit the beginning of this year that he really started to slow down. He’s still a puppy in his head but his body is not keeping up.

On January 1st I decided to mark my love for Tazo (named after my favourite Starbucks drink…kids named him) by taking a picture with him every day. So fun Tazo taking up the picto try and capture a moment with him. It’s not like we have big adventures every day. In fact, most of the adventure is trying to get him to not turn his head from me (who knew a dog can hate having his pic taken). But I have this wonderful photo diary with him which I will treasure for always.

So while most of this was about me and Tazo, it was also a test for me to see if I could stick to something like this. And I have!! Almost every single day!!

Tazo begging selfieGive it a try! What would you take a pic of every day? Could you do it for 365 days? I use “Day One” as my journal app. I upload a pic, make a comment about my day, put in a gratitude statement and bang, your day feels complete!  I challenge you to give it a try.

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Day 2 – Can doing something for 365 days have an effect?

12My friend Alan Bishop inspired me to start my 365dayMom site. We met for coffee years ago and talked about his then new initiative called the 365 Effect. I remember listening to him talk about how he had just finished 365 days without something like junk food and wine. I remember thinking he was crazy! But since then I have always thought about his Effect.

So now it’s my turn to give it a try. I am so excited about my new website. And nervous too because I’m worried I won’t be able to keep with it. I am taking on quite a big commitment. Posting in each area of my website daily for a year. And I may run out of ideas before a year is up. But it is sure going to be fun trying!

I really do think that doing something for 365 days is going to have a big effect on my life:

1. It is going to force me to be organized and not procrastinate.
2. I’m going to learn how to write (or at least try!)
3. It is going to make me look at areas of my life that I absolutely love and get to share those – music, reading, laughing.
4. It is going to make me appreciate those things I don’t enjoy as much which includes cooking and exercising! What was I thinking adding those two areas to my site??
5. I’m going to engage my mind and learn so much. And that alone has made me so passionate about this project and there is absolutely nothing bad about feeling passionate about something.

So thank you Alan for starting me down this crazy path. Compared to cutting out junk food this will be a snap!!

Check out Alan and his 365 effect at www.365effect.com.

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Day 1 – The story of 365dayMom

After 16 years of running my own event management company, I found myself feeling uninspired, over-worked, stressed and under-appreciated. Not a good thing when you are trying to run a client-based business. Change was needed. So I started looking for things and then 365dayMom found me.

It started in January when I decided I would start journaling every day. Just a little paragraph on my day…my thoughts, what I did, who I saw. I also decided to write a gratitude statement every day. And to make my journal fun, I promised to take a selfie every day with my yellow lab Tazo. And so it began.

I then took an amazing workshop with Diane Lloyd and Tracey Gibson from Inspired Results (www.inspiredresultsgroup.com) called “Inspired Life Beyond 40”. And inspiring it was. I came away with my key words that inspired me – happy, loved, calm, healthy and inspired.

Tami Tate

365dayMom creator Tami Tate

From there I started reading a lot about being happy. It really struck me as important and what I somehow wanted to bring in to my world on a different level.

I signed on with Diane to be my business coach and she has been so wonderful to work with. Knowing I wanted change sooner than later, she got me on an accelerated path for change. I have had so many a-ha moments working with Diane.

I signed up with Social Sage PR (www.socialsagepr.com) and started learning more about the social media world. So much to learn, so little time!

And I went to see Carmen Spagnola (www.carmenspagnola.com) who did an intuitive reading with me. Mind blowing and the last piece in my puzzle to open me up to change.

So along comes May and I am stuck in traffic. I’m thinking about “what do I want to be when I grow up”. I have successfully written in my journal every day and loving it. I’m thinking about how the one thing I really feel confident about is being a good mom. And how that is such a full time job all by itself. And yet we are all balancing so much more. And boom…literally like a boom… 365dayMom comes to my mind. I write it on a piece of scrap paper in the car (cause you know our older minds, we forget good ideas immediately!). I know this is what I am meant to be doing.

So what is 365dayMom? I want it to be “A landing place for busy moms who want to find balance, humour, inspiration and true happiness. Dance. Love. Sing. Live..”  Every day I will post something that hopefully helps you find what you are looking for (okay, a U2 song just broke out!).  Join me on this 365 day adventure!

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