Day 158 – What Do You Do When You Don’t Want to Do Something?
I really don’t want to do something.
But I’m feeling obligated to do it because of a position I hold. And in that position of Chair, I’m supposed to be looking out for the best interest of others.
So I know I need to be the person that leads the group through an issue.
I just don’t want to.
I am feeling stretched because of my stupid inability to say no. I sit on 12 committees, of which 8 of them are volunteer.
I just can’t say no to people that ask me, but it is exhausting. And when I’m tired I’m like others – I know I won’t do as good as job as needed because I’m tired.
But how do you say no? What if you feel like you owe it to a group to do the project. So you say yes and instantly regret it.
I read a post by Jenny Witte and she stated: Keep in mind that you don’t need to say yes simply because you are capable. Just because you CAN handle doing a project doesn’t mean you have to or should.
And that is so true, and is a big part of my problem. I know I can do something. I’m capable of doing it. But I don’t have time to do everything. Or at least not have time while juggling family, business, health and sanity.
So I need to pull on my big girl panties and just deal with it. I either need to decide to say no, or suck it up and get it done. I just hate disappointing people.
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